Building Up Your Home ~ Part 7 ~ “Be devoted to one another” (Romans 12:10)


Do you remember the moment you were sure he was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?

Do you remember those long hours waiting by the phone for him to call? Checking your phone, email etc. for any word from him?

Do you remember dropping everything to go be with him at a moment’s notice? Lunch or shopping dates with friends was just not important. Do you remember a time when he came before anyone and everyone else?

Do you still drop everything when he calls? Are you still checking your phone for a call from him? Are you still waiting with one ear listening for him to drive up into the driveway?

The Greek word for devotion is pilostorgos which means: to cherish one’s kindred, tenderly loving and tenderly affectionate. Devotion implies a deep level of commitment to one another.

These pictures have been floating around the web lately. I think in part because most, if not all of us, hope to be like these couples one day, still very much in love after spending a lifetime together.

I bet if we were able to interview these couples they would tell us that the love they feel for one another now can’t even begin to compare with the love they had for one another when they first got married. In fact, I’m sure they would tell you they didn’t really know what love was back then! Their love bloomed over the years and is more beautiful today than when it was only budding. Unfortunately, this type of love, like a flower, requires certain elements to cause it to flourish, and if those elements are missing, the budding love can also wither away.

In 1 Peter 3:2, Peter is admonishing wives to revere  their husbands, and the Amplified version of the Bible does a GREAT job of defining just what this reverence should look like. You’ll also see a few of the same words used here that were also used to describe pilostorgos  (above)…, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him—to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].”

Allow me to stop here and ask, does this describe you in your relationship with your husband? Are you more madly in love with your guy today than when you married? Do you convey that to him!? If not, it’s not too late! If it is the case, I think you have a great chance of ending up as these couples one day, but I still have a way to make your marriage even better!

I’d like to share with you something that happened to me over ten years ago:

I was reading a book when two verses in Scripture jumped out at me. The first was Philippians  2:13,  “For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill His good purpose.”

Now who is working? And what two things is He doing?

Phil 2:13 makes it clear that it is God working in us to give us the desire, and then He works in us to accomplish or fulfill that desire!!

The second verse is found in 1Thesalonians 5:24, “The one who calls you is faithful, and HE will do it.” Once again, I don’t want you to miss this, who is going to do it? God, who is faithful, is going to do it through you.

I read those verses and realized I’d been praying the wrong way!! I’d been asking for His help to make me a better person, wife, mom, friend, daughter, etc. What I needed instead was for me to step aside and allow God to work through me!! He was going to accomplish the desires He had already placed within me, if I would allow Him to.

Now, let me tell you, if anyone had asked me about my marriage at the time, I would have told them it was as good as you could get!! Of course, no marriage is perfect, but I couldn’t imagine ours being any better.  That morning, once I realized it was suppose to be God through me, I went before God and prayed just 5 words!! Just a five-worded prayer: “Father, love John through me!”

All that day, I began to long for a phone call. I kept looking at the clock to see just how much longer it would be before he came home from work, until finally I heard the garage door begin to open and let me tell you, I beat our dog to the door!! But I didn’t stop there, I went out to his car and literally pulled him out of the driver’s seat and wrapped my arms around him and hugged him and welcomed him home, letting him know he had been missed terribly all day.

John, of course was a bit shocked 🙂 and wondered what this was all about and that’s when I remembered my prayer from that morning...”Father, love John through me.” God proved to me that day that He is able to do immeasurable more through me than I could ever do on my own, and after 13 years, I’m still listening for the garage door to start to go up and still meeting him at his car door thankful that he’s home..:)

This prayer can apply to every area of your life. Romans 11:36 says, “For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be  glory forever…” It’s five words that can change your life!! “Father, love _____ through me.” He is faithful and able. Trust Him and see.

Til next time, sue


This was featured on Matrimonial Monday

21 thoughts on “Building Up Your Home ~ Part 7 ~ “Be devoted to one another” (Romans 12:10)

  1. Upon reading your blog this morning Sue, I was moved to tears. As your neighbor and traveling buddy, I see first hand how God moves through you to love John. I think this is why Reggie and I love to be around you two. I am changing the way I pray today! God, love Reggie through me. Thanks for your blog!

    • Aw… thanks Sandy! I just can’t wait to hear all HE is going to do through you even tho I think you two are a very sweet couple already!!
      Get set girl! sue

  2. What a wonderful post to remind us to intentionally love our husbands as well as allow the Lord to love him through us. I’m moved to tears reading this again and am featuring this post for our Matrimonial Monday link up tomorrow. Please continue to bless us with your marriage posts.

  3. Sue – I am just getting to all the T2 postings (much in my life took over my time for a couple weeks!). This post was meant for me to see today! I was praying for my husband this morning, for his challenges, growth, etc. Deepening my love with my husband has really been on my heart. Reading this this morning really spoke to me and I am excited to stand on this prayer and move aside and let God love through me. Thank you so much for your obedience to post this because God knew I needed it!! Blessings! Laura

  4. Oh, Sue, I can see how this is life-changing! I’m applying this to every person in my life. Thank you for opening my eyes, sweet sister in Christ.

    • I missed your comment until now! Thank you Kim! He can do immeasurably more than all we can possibly imagine according to the power with in us (Eph 3:20) That revelation was life changing once I discovered it for myself!! BUT I still wonder why at times I attempt thing on my own…
      One day I hope to have it all down! Thanks for your encouraging words!!


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