Building Up Your Home ~ Part 6 ~ Covetousness vs. Contentment

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“The wise woman builds up her house,

But the foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands.”

 Proverbs 14:1

This series has been designed to point out the contrasting ways the wise and foolish women affect their homes. It’s been a few weeks since my last post, so I thought it might be time to include a bit of review before we move onto the next area.


In the first segment we learned women can build up or tear down their home through their words. We learned each of us has the power to bring life and healing to a relationship or death and destruction. We can build up and spur a person on to being all God intended him or her to be, or we can discourage a person into giving up and never reaching his or her full potential simply by what we say.


The second area was through our actions towards our loved ones. Proverbs 31:12 says, “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” According to Colossians 3:23,  We’re to work at blessing those we love wholeheartedly and for God not man, and then we will never grow discouraged.


The third area was in extending grace to our loved ones. We discovered grace was much more than forgiveness. Grace actually means a free gift. A favor rendered by one who need not do so. Extending grace when it’s least deserved can work wonders in the lives of those we love.


The forth area we looked at was priorities! In the busy lives we lead these days, this area is one that’s easy to mess up in. In our quest to choose what’s best, we need to start viewing our lives as on a scale knowing that a lot of little “good things” can often out-weigh “the best” and that each choice we agree to make may mean something else will be sacrificed.

The fifth area I’ve titled: Covetousness vs. Contentment


Contentment is being mentally or emotionally satisfied with things as they are or a willingness to accept circumstances. To be at peace with the state you find yourself and your loved ones in. While…

Covetousness is a strong desire of obtaining and possessing some supposed good; excessive desire for riches, money, processions or fame; not satisfied or content with all one has, but desiring more. In the country we live in, this can be a troublesome area. We are forever being told through the media outlets that we need more. We have to have all the latest name brand clothes, shoes, boots, sneakers, sports equipment, purses, etc. It’s hard to even keep up on the latest trends today, for they seem to be always changing!

I lived for some time in a third world country where Americans were considered rich simply because we had homes with running water and electricity, and after returning to this country once more, I honestly didn’t think I’d ever have trouble in this particular area, but that hasn’t been the case.

There was one time when I decided that our home was no longer meeting our needs. After all, we had originally bought it knowing it was small and only intended to live there a few years, build up some equity, and then sell it and buy our dream home. We had already been living in this one for eight years!! My husband, however, had grown used to having a very small mortgage payment and liked being able to be free to enjoy life a bit without having to worry about paying the mortgage each month. He was content right where we were, but I definitely wasn’t!

I began a quest to find a new home on my own and talk him into it all at the same time. Until one day, as I was describing this perfect home I saw advertised, he looked at me and said words that literally rocked online casino nederlandsegokken my world, “Are you saying I can’t provide for you?” The Lord used those words to wake me up to exactly what I had been doing for months!!

I looked my guy right in the eyes and said, “No, I’m saying I am not content with all God has given me. I’m sorry to say, I still want more.” Just imagine, after giving me the assurance of spending eternity in paradise, blessing me with my best friend and husband, two awesome kids, a home, cars…way more than anyone ever needed, and I still wasn’t content! I had justified my desire for more by the fact that we had out grown our space even though I knew families with seven or more children were living in grass huts together.

In this country, perhaps more than anywhere else in the world, we can easily convince ourselves we need more. We can even get deep into debt striving for the bigger and better THINGS when if we would only stop and take a careful inventory of our lives, we would discover we already have the very best this world has to offer.


Paul once said in Philippians 4:11-13, “…I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”


According to Paul, contentment doesn’t come naturally; it is something that is learned over time through our relationship with Christ Jesus. The wise woman begins to realize that her worth is not found in the latest designer handbag that she’ll be able to find at the local Goodwill in a few years. The wise woman knows she is already a daughter of the King of Kings. Likewise, the wise woman knows that no house in this world could begin to compare to the home waiting for her in heaven.

The wise woman rests content in her relationship in Christ and focuses on teaching her children to do the same.

I’d like to ask you to stop for just a moment and reflect on your life, your morning, or the past week; does your life reflect the words of Paul above? Are you absolutely content with your life, or do you find yourself wanting more? Paul penned those words while sitting in a Roman prison chained to an Imperial Guard 24/7, yet he could encourage the Philippians to rejoice!! (Phil 4:4) If Paul can find contentment in his circumstances we sure can!! In fact, we can do all things through Christ who give us strength! (Phil 4:13)

‘Til next time! sue









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