My husband had to give a tour of the facility he works in to some government officials the other day, and I have no idea how the subject of ironing came up, but when he returned home that night he told me he was made fun of all day!! Now before I continue, let me assure you, this was all done in fun and no offense was taken, but he definitely perked my interest when he said that!
He continued: While he was giving the tour to all these individuals, one of them, a woman, stopped him and asked if he ever ironed, to which he honestly replied, “No, I’ve never ironed.” By now, you can probably figure out what happened next; he was teased for the remainder of the tour! Everyone was thinking that was quite something!
At the end of the day, a co-worker that had also been on the tour approached him and asked him once more if it were really true! “Does your wife really do all your ironing?” he asked. My husband explained that I not only did all his ironing, but went on to tell him about some of the other things I routinely do for him each day that he really appreciates. The co-worker, who had recently divorced, finished the conversation by adding that he hoped to find a wife like that one day.
After we finished our conversation, I happened to think that had that scenario taken place just 50 years before, the outcome could have been just the opposite; the man who would have been teased would most likely have been the one who had to do his own ironing. Times have changed, but is that necessarily a good thing? This really got me thinking.
The Bible says,
The wise woman builds up her home; the foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” Proverbs 14:1
The second area in which we can build up our home or tear it down is through our actions towards others.
Proverbs 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
Exactly, what does “brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life,” look like? John Wesley 1703-1791 once said that we ALL should, (not just wives):
Do all the good you can, by all the means you can,
In all the ways you can, in all the places you can,
With all the zeal you can, to all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.
– John Wesley
Let me tell you up front that ironing is my least favorite chore ever!! BUT, this really isn’t about ironing clothes; it is about doing for others rather than expecting others to do for you or expecting others to do for themselves. What this co-worker didn’t realize at the time is that I may do all these things for my guy, but he also does a lot for me as well.
I know some of you must be thinking, how about the women who work outside the home to help pay the bills? Trust me, I’ve been there and know how hard it is to juggle all the responsibilities of home, family and work. There doesn’t seem to be any easy answers, and there are a lot of opinions our there, but have you ever wondered just which ones were the right ones?
In the area of doing for those you love most in this world, there are only two opinions that count:
* The Lord’s (found in His Word)
* What you and your husband agree to.
In the book of Colossians 3:23 it says, “Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily (from the soul), as [something done] for the Lord and not for men.” In other words, whatever you do, do it wholeheartedly!!
This reality was brought home to me one day when I was cleaning my kitchen floor and was nearing the end in the back corner where no one travels. Whatever the reason, I began to think of quitting early. “After all,” I thought, “who is going to notice?” “No one will notice if I do an incredible job on this floor or if I quit early, right?” It was at that moment the above verse popped into my head, “… whatever you do, work at it wholeheartedly…”
It was then I knew that much if not most of the things I do for my loved ones may not ever get noticed by them at all, but there is One who is always watching and ready to reward accordingly. Once again, it comes down to a matter of the heart; “the wife of noble character” who works at her tasks whole-heartily (from the soul). There are plenty of women who are ready to offer all kinds of excuses and will totally understand if you offer your own, but I’d like to be one of those women who is found to be “worth far more than rubies” to my family. Not that I think I’m there yet, but I do believe it’s something worth striving for, for my family is worth it to me. How about you?
Next, I have a story to share that I heard years ago and never forgot it. I believe it ties the two posts together.
“Til then, sue